7 tips for Writers Block

Okay, I have to be honest. Sometimes writing the blog is a really difficult thing for me. I can make wallpapers all day long, the design comes easy to me. It’s the writing that doesn’t. I get writer’s block allll the time. I get these ideas for posts I want to make and then think “but I don’t know what to say”. Then I do one of these things and BOOM I write a post in 20 minutes. So I’m sharing if you have writers block on anything, these are some helpful types I’ve learned along the way just to get stuff done!

  1. Get out in nature - This is my go to. Usually I just need to get off technology, and get outside. This helps me to really think about what I want to write without all the distractions!

  2. Try something new - This always gets me out of a rut and gets me thinking in a different way. I love a new perspective because sometimes that’s all you need to get you going.

  3. Go about life - Don’t get hung up on not being able to write. Sometimes if I just sit and stew I never get it done. But if I continue life like normal all the sudden this urge hits and I can’t be stopped.

  4. Scope out the competition - I like to look at other bloggers, see what they are writing about and what the audience likes reading! Sometimes I see a blog about gift guides, or tips and tricks and I think I could totally write about that. Don’t worry if you feel like you are copying someone. Because unless you literally are copying everyone has a different outlook and point of view!

  5. Do a writing prompt - This is my favorite, I love just googling writing prompts. I do a random one or sometimes I pick a topic and just write totally out of my element. All I need is a few sentences and then I’m confident enough to write my blog post!

  6. Set up your space - Nothing gets me in the writing zone like a nice cup of tea, some lemon water and a candle burning. I use my noise cancelling headphones and I get to work. Taking out the distractions and setting up a place that I feel comfortable really helps me

  7. Tackle small items at a time - Sometimes I put ridiculous expectations on myself and think I want to write all the blog posts for the rest of the month. That usaully just isn’t going to happen. But when I think of writing just one, everything seems much more manageable and easier to accomplish.

If you have any tips, I’d love to hear them!

Lessons from 2018 so far

I meant to write this post a long time ago but like most of this year it has just gotten away from me. Last year I feel like I worked a lot on myself and my anxiety. This year I focused a lot of attention outward and what I was putting out into the world. I could tell that my anxious and fearful self didn’t help me to get where I wanted to go especially with friendships. And this year with wedding planning it shows you a lot. I had a ton of friends I never expected step up to the plate, I learned that my friends show that they care in different ways than I do and really learned the tough lesson that I wasn’t a priority for some people. I am empathetic to a fault and I really try to communicate with friends, and when you don’t receive that back it can be hurtful.

So I stopped putting effort into relationships that no longer served me.

Now, I feel like when people say that it makes it seem like this incredible shift happens immediately and life is unicorns and rainbows. And friends Im here to tell you the truth. At first, its quiet. Like eerily quiet. When you remove all the noise and commotion of people in your life that have a negative affect, it leaves a really empty space.

And I have to be honest, it freaked me out at first. I wasn’t sure what to do I felt like I had all this time on my hands, less people were talking to me and I felt sad. I was morning the lost of friends and had nothing to immediately replace it with. So I took a step back and thought about what I would like to fill my new found free time with. I spent it doing things I enjoyed and thats when everything really started to turn around. I fostered and help grew things in my life that brought me happiness. Sometimes I would just read a book and when it was over I’d be sad because no one texted me. But I realized that few hours of reading the book brought me more happiness, and less frustration than those friends did.

So yes this shift brought good change but it took time and a little more work on my side. But I find now that when toxic friends do dumb things it doesn’t bother me or get me worked but because I don’t care, and two I have better friends now that I don’t need them. I put more time and energy into things and people that made me happy and of course Im overall much happier.

So If you’re looking for a sign, this is it. Don’t waste your precious time and energy on things and people that don’t make you feel good. Do things that are good for you and make you feel good about yourself. I spent so much time trying to get mean people to like me and it was like for what? Why not spend more time with someone you just met and it was easy.

I hope this encourages you too that if you want a change, it my be hard at first, and even weird but it will pay dividend. Just know you’re doing what is best for you and thats what matters! The happier the more you will attract your tribe!

“Your vibe attracts your tribe”

Should I DIY for my Wedding?

I am in the THICK of wedding planning. Holy cow, I knew it would be work but these last 2 months have been crazy. If you’re every attending a wedding for the love, please send it in on time and correctly mark food choices if needed! Thats my advice!

So I have been trying to DIY some wedding items just because Im a perfectionist sometimes, I want to save money, and I like creating, of course. So I’d thought I’d share with you my check list of whether or not I should create something:

  1. First and most important question: Do I have time?? My advice would be for DIYing is creating things that you can make months out that won’t needed to be changed last minute. For example signs, props, card boxes. Things along those lines. I would advise against seating charts or escort cards because those are subject to change a lot last minute. If one person cancels last minute it could change your whole seating chart.

  2. Can a lot go wrong?? Some of the items we wanted to make or course there were hiccups. Things weren’t the size we expected or we needed more paint. Lots of trips to Michaels. If this project can go from 0 to 100 real quick on problems, either plan very in-depth or scrap it all together. There will be other things that are more pressing and have problems that you will have to tend to.

  3. Will this look nice enough?? Sometimes I start a project and then I finish and Im like hmm that didn’t turn out quite as nice as I expected. If this is a main focal point, do you trust yourself enough to do an amazing job? Harsh but you’d rather know the answer before you start rather than after.

  4. Would it be cheaper to pay someone to do this?? Sometimes I see a project and Im like Oh easy! But then I realize all the supplies I had to buy and time it will take and I realize it’s just not worth it. Paying someone else or buying off etsy would be way easier.

  5. Is it worth it?? Is this something you really want to create and on your wedding day say thank you I made that! Or is it something people may not even notice? Sometimes I feel like we take on so much DIYing where it would be less time and energy to just purchase it. Trust me you’re going to be pulled in a lot of directions, don’t add more onto your plate if you’re not really excited about it.

When I started wedding planning I was going to DIY all this stuff. And my mom thought I was crazy. One thing I for sure took off my list was escort cards because it’s last minute and will reflect food choices as well. But I have created some really cool stuff! I’d be happy to make a post on how I did it all after the wedding and I have proper photos! Let me know if you’d like that!

I hope this helps with your decision on should I DIY or not for your wedding! If you’ve already had your wedding I’d love to see what you DIYed!

Trying a New Fitness Class

Trying a new fitness class soon? I’ve tried a lot of new ones lately to just switch up my routine. And sometimes a new class can be scary. I totally get it, it’s intimidating but you’ve got this! And Here are some of my easy tips that will help you feel more confident!

  1. Don’t be afraid to call the studio! Ask what to expect, what to wear, if you need to bring anything and feel free to tell them this is your first class. They will tell you if its good for a beginner. Its their job to help you out!

  2. Get there early. Don’t be the first, because how else will you stalk what you need for the class like weights and where things are? But this helps you get positioned in the class to where you feel comfortable. Whether it’s the front of the room or far back!

  3. Since you got there early this is the perfect time to stretch it out. They will help you warm up in class but this never hurts to do and its better than just sitting on your mat getting nervous.

  4. Follow someone else’s lead. Watch someone else, you can see where and if they get towels. Or if they got weights and where.

  5. Ask questions! Don’t be afraid to ask the front desk where things are and what you need. Thats what they are for!

  6. Bring a friend. If that helps you to know you aren’t alone and someone to make eye contact with it really helps! It won’t be so scary if you aren’t alone.

  7. Bring water. Always a good idea you may not need during the class but it’s important to stay hydrated.

  8. In this same note, make sure you ate and aren’t dehydrated for class. I went to a heat class at 6 am when I woke up at 530. I hadn’t have enough water or anything to eat and I had to leave the class early. It wasn’t fun but I didn’t properly prepare my body for the class and now I know!

  9. Wear a cute outfit and buy a cute mat. Not sure if it’s just me but if I love my workout outfit then I feel a lot more confident. I’ve added some of my favorite items at the bottom of this post!

  10. MOST IMPORTANTLY .. BE CONFIDENT! You are taking time out of you busy schedule to do something good for you body. Don’t be harsh on yourself it’s going to be you first class and you’ll improve so much. So don’t compare yourself to other people in the class thats not who you are competing with. Pat yourself on the back, seriously its a big deal!

I hope these help and if you aren trying a new class soon tell me in the comments below! I will be thinking of you and with you in spirit. You got this!