New Years Resolutions

Who doesn't love a good New Years resolution? Most people? Oh.

Lets be real here for a second, most New Years resolutions don't last for more than a month unfortunately.  And if you have stuck with yours all year, you seriously deserve an award. But I was talking with my wonderful sister Kristin over Christmas and she was saying "I don't believe in new years resolutions, I believe in goals. Resolutions have a negative connotation to them and I think change can only happen in the positive."  My sister has a lot of sayings and is always firm in her conviction, so I just listened at first and didn't give a second thought.  I knew I wanted to rewrite a post about resolutions and I was thinking of mine and they all started with STOP or DON'T.  And then I thought shit my sister was right, again. 

But really, I know that she is right. In order to stop a bad habit you really should focus on starting to do something good, focusing on positive rather than negative.

So here are my resolutions:

1. Start thinking more of myself.  This goal is going to be challenging, by nature I think about other people's wants/needs before mine most of the time, leaving little time for things I like to do.  And I realized how miserable it made me as a person, allowing me to give even less to my friends and family.  So this year I want to do things I want, be more aware of the things I need to do, enjoy time with myself and speak up for myself.  I always want to make sure that I feel my time is just as valued as the others around me.  I'm hoping all this will help.

2. Have more adventures. This past year there was a lot of heart break in my life, and I became a very fearful person.  I want to have more memories and joy in my life and I think getting out there rather than curled up in my apartment will really help my state of mind.

3.  Find a workout I love.  It wouldn't be New Year's *Goals* with out something fitness related, duh.  But in all seriousness one of my struggles with working out is sticking with it.  I usually have excuses as to why I cant but mostly I'm just not in love with working out. So Im going to challenge myself to try different classes and find what works best for ME not what I think should or what other people are doing.  I want to be excited and stick with it.

4. Create more.  I love painting and reading.  I know with being an *adult* there is less time for that.  It brings me so much happiness though so I know its something I should incorporate weekly.

What are your New Years GOALS? Remember, goals not resolutions. 

Dear 2015

Dear 2015,

Good riddance.  I wish I could say just kidding after that sentence but I think that will take some time.  2015 really was a year of some very big changes in my life, with my job, health, living situation and relationships. It has been an extremely challenging year with extreme lows and extreme highs, which is exhausting. The past year and a half has been emotionally trying to say the least, from several late night/early morning ER visits from allergic reactions, transitioning jobs twice from circumstances outside of my control, moving back to a city where I knew 3 people, and living in a 5 bedroom house by myself.  On the flip side, my long time boyfriend was able to move from California to Ohio with a full time job, I lost 15 pounds, made new friends, signed a lease on my dream apartment and started a blog! 

This year if anything has taught me a lot.  And I'm hoping when I look back on this year in the future instead of thinking heartbreak, I can see how many challenges I overcame and that they were catalyst into better things. I have really realized how important relationships are this year, when you have nothing its your family and friends who help pick you up and dust you off. The relationship you have with yourself is equally important, if not more, in some situations. 

I know full well that I can look back on this year as the worst year of my life, but I also know that I can choose to look at this year as one where I have grown immensely.  Its all about perspective.  I love the idea of a New Year, it is a simple way to restart and change the things you want.

For this New Year's my boyfriend and I are going to write down the things we thought were importnat in the year 2015 and write down our hopes for 2016 (to not be opened till next New Years).  I hope that whatever year you may have had that the past can stay in the past and you're able to start the New Year with a clear mind and full heart. Can't wait to make 2016 my own and no one else's!