Refocus & Re-centering

Hi friends! I hope you are having a fabulous week! 

Today I wanted to talk about refocusing and re-centering yourself.  Here on Life After Graduation, I try to give some everyday tips or insights from things that I have learned but I have always struggled with starting things.  I usually have all these great ideas on organizing, creating or just starting a project.  I find the first step is the hardest. I have made a lot of excuses during the past month with the holidays, living at my parents and then moving in with my boyfriend.  But I find myself being sluggish, tired and so blah.  Yes blah is the best word I could come up with and I'm sure some of you have felt this way.  

So this post isn't about how to get "started" with a goal or project because I know that Im not currently capable of giving that advice, but I hope to get there one day.  Starting this week I want to work on getting refocused and re-centered.  Allowing myself to try different things to get there and not getting frustrated when something isn't helping like I thought it would. 

I know three main things I must do first and thats get organized, second is to get on a schedule, and third is to take steps to help myself.  My place is a disaster, with just moving 5 days ago, everything is successfully unpacked but hasn't found its home.  I literally can't think when there is stuff thrown everywhere and counter tops aren't clear.  I think its the counter tops that get me the most.  Is anyone else like this?? Please say yes.  I need regiments and schedules.  My mind is calmest when I have a plan.  I know that with plans you also need some flexibility because things wont ever go perfectly to plan.  But doing things such as meal prepping, or picking out my clothes the night before are little things that I can do for myself.  I also know that my next step is to actively take steps in the right direction.  Im never going to get out of my blah stage if I don't do things.  I need to do activities that help me to get moving and slightly out of the physical blah as well as do things I enjoy. 

Although I hope that other people aren't in blah phases, I hope that if you are you're able to help yourself get out of them! Is there anything you do to get out of phases like this?

15 Minutes of Me Time

Happy Monday everyone! With the holiday season upon us it's time for some real talk. Recently I have felt so uninspired and unmotivated to do anything creative.  I haven’t been able to come up with content, and move past a writer's block. But I recently heard a podcast with Elizabeth Gilbert on Rob Bell’s podcast.  She was speaking about her writing process and how she really has to be her best self when creating; she has to sleep enough, eat healthy, and cut out distractions.  I completely agreed with it and thought about how much sense it made.  It wasn’t until I sat down to write this post, where I first scrolled through Instagram, checked my emails, and tried to find the perfect Spotify playlist that I realized I was procrastinating and not helping myself.  [Hence the uninspired and unmotivated part] I thought back to Elizabeth’s advice and I realized I wasn’t taking care of myself.  I have not kept up with exercise, I ate terribly this weekend with family in town, and I haven’t had 10 minutes purely for myself.  Last week though I started taking 15 minutes for myself in the morning and it has changed my whole day.

Usually in the morning I hit snooze too many times, which isn’t me. I would then be rushed the whole morning and start off on the wrong foot.  I decided that I needed to wake up a little earlier, sit up and just take some time. Whether that’s having a cup of coffee, watching the news for a few minutes or just catching up on social media. It has drastically changed my whole day.  I use to dread waking up knowing I had an hour commute and a long work day ahead of me, to then go home and do what felt like endless amount of chores (yay adulthood).  Now I look forward to waking up. I feel like before the rest of the world wakes up I have some time for myself that no one knows about and I don’t feel guilty that I should be doing something else, because technically I should still be sleeping. I have been feeling more refreshed, less rushed.  I am no longer half asleep during my morning routine or driving to work. I have noticed my whole day is just off to a much better start.

These 15 minutes in the beginning seemed like there was no way they would impact my day, but they really have.  And now I get what Elizabeth was saying, we need to be our best selves in order to create, or really do anything with 100%.  I intend on giving myself some more time so that not only I feel better but I can also give more of myself to my loved ones this holiday.

I hope you all take 15 minutes for yourself throughout the day, and if you feel like you need permission to do that, then *insert permission slip here*.

I hope you have a great day and make sure you carve some time out for yourself within your hectic day!