7 Ways I'm Happier Everyday

This past couple of years have been one of growing and learning for me.  I realized two years ago how anxious, nervous and sad I was all the time.   And I wanted to change it.  I feel like the past couple of years have been laying down some good foundation but this past couple of months I've really seen and felt a difference in my every day. I wanted to share some of the things I have done with you, hopefully, some will resonate! 

1 - Declutter - If you didn't read my post here about decluttering my every day, be sure to check it out.  Having a lot fewer things around me all the time has helped me to have a much clearer mind and feel a lot less anxious. 

2 - Not watching live TV - Don't get me wrong I still love Bravo but I found myself trying to work my whole schedule around a TV show because I had deemed it as "me time".  When in reality I would hurry up trying to do things so I could relax but I was just thinking of all the things I didn't do, checking my phone all throughout commercial breaks and not really enjoying the time.  I now watch the show when I have time (fewer commercials) and I focus on it and enjoy it more.  Or I watch it while I'm working out and it feels like a treat! 

3 - Giving my phone up every night - I also wrote a post about giving my phone up for 2 hours every night and what its done for me.  I feel so much more productive and relaxed at that time. 

4 - Doing things I enjoy -  Like reading books, or skimming Pinterest for fun.  I'm trying to find things where I can lose myself a little more and fewer to-dos.  Baking is one thing that really lets my mind wander. You can see the 5 books I love on a Sunday afternoon here

5 - Cheat Meals - Henry and I realized we were spending money on going out as treats and not paying attention to how many times we were doing it.  In an effort to really clean up our diet we have decided to every Friday have a "cheat meal" that we usually cook at home.  It a fun thing to look forward to all week and do together.  It saves money and makes the food more enjoyable! You can't be strict on your diet 100% of the time you'll go crazy.  We really enjoy the bonding time together as well after long weeks! 

6 - Morning workouts - This was so hard in the beginning, I won't sugar coat it.  But I feel such a sense of accomplishment just starting my day.  And when I come home from work I don't feel guilty because I've already done it! Not to mention it feel good for my body and I'm loving getting stronger. 

7 - Meditation - This really helps me to try to stop my thoughts and just take a second for myself. I have found too that I dont react as poorly to things when I am meditating regularlly. 

I hope at least one thing on this list helps you to feel better every day! I'd love to hear any tips that you have. 

 

The Importance of Unplugging

Hi Friends!  Recently I went on a quick 4 day trip to Florida to visit my parents.  The warm weather was such a refreshing change from the dreary Ohio weather I am use to.  When I was in Florida though I really made an effort to stay off my phone, especially social media and just focus on myself.  Oh my gosh was it needed!

Its so easy to get wrapped up in social media, getting envious of other people and making up an idea in your head of how they live their life.  Putting a lot of unnecessary pressure and sadness on yourself. I am usually one to check my Instagram and scroll until I get to where I left off last but not this time.  I usually have FOMO (fear of missing out) wanting to know everything.  

This is going to sound dumb but I took the pressure off myself of constantly checking, and I felt like a weight was lifted off myself.  Don't get me wrong I know that social media is key for businesses and growing my blog,  but that doesn't mean I have to be constantly checking.

I have decided after this trip I am going to try every night to set aside about an hour of time where I don't go on my phone at all.  Whether I watch a show or make time to read a book, just having a little bit of space from my phone will do me good.  I realized over the vacation how much I missed reading and the calming affect it has on me. So I think its important to make time for that rather than scrolling on my phone.

This is just a reminder that its okay to not always be reachable wit your phone and its important to unplug every once in a while and reconnect with yourself.

What do you do to unplug?

Real Talk: Comparisons

Hi Friends! I hope that you are enjoying the new blog and the changes! I would love to hear your thoughts. It's been a hot minute since I have had some real talk on the blog and I just thought it was time.  I recently have had some solid heart to hearts with my BFF's and I have realized recently how much on a daily basis I have been encountering people comparing. Comparing their life in all aspects, their clothes, their jobs, their health, their relationships, etc. to other people they know.   

The problem with comparing is that it automatically makes one thing better, and one thing worse. Not just plain different or equal in their own ways.  One is always the better option and someone is worse off.

I can't lie, I compare my life all the time to others. But I finally had the epiphany that by doing this I am truly only hurting myself. It is something that I internalize and I usually don't feel like the "winner" in most cases. I guess I really took a step back and in so many cases I was comparing apples to oranges.  People had made different choices than I had but we also didn't do everything the same to lead up to that point.  I was judging them and myself.  

It is 110% okay to be different.  As long as you are doing what is best for you and trying to better yourself.  By comparing no one is truly a winner.  I know that there are quotes like "you're only in a competition with yourself", and "don't compare your beginning to someone's middle".  And as cheesy as it is it is equally true. 

I know that this is going to be hard, but I'm writing this as a reminder to my friends and myself to be easy going and stop comparing so much, because really in the end, what are you even competing for? And do you feel all that much better by putting someone down to be a winner in a race your competing in by yourself? 

Be easy on yourself my friend, you're exactly where you need to be.