Stay Organized: Busy Season

Happy Monday Friends! I hope that you are having a great week so far. If you’re anything like me then you’re busy busy busy! So Im sharing some of the things I do to stay on track and push through a busy season, without hopefully feeling too overwhelmed!

Here are some of my tips!

  1. To do lists - I dont know about you but lists are my favorite and here why

    • I can see everything on paper, this gives me the full picture

    • It makes the list less scary, sometimes I have all these things swirling in my head that I have to do. And it just feels like it get bigger and bigger in my head. So if I write it down or say it out loud that power gets taken away.

    • I can prioritize and mark the big ticket items

    • See what NEEDS to be done verses what I WANT done. Sometimes I start a to do list and then you can’t stop me. I just add everyone on there that I’ve always wanted to do. Writing lists help me to say do I need to do this or would it just be nice.

  2. Calendar Invites - I have been inviting Henry to calendar invites for our weekend to dedicate time to get specific things done. I write questions or thoughts I have in the invite so we can be effective and efficient with our time. It also forces us to slow down and make sure we are still moving full steam ahead.

    • I think it’s important though to note, be flexible with this though. Sometimes I put things on the calendar for Saturday and then life happens and I would get all anxious that from 10-11 I was suppose to work on the blog. Just remember you’ll get to it and give yourself some grace. The calendar invite is more to help remind you to do it!

  3. Family calendar - In google Henry and I created a family calendar which has been a life saver because he can see things that I want us both to do or what I’m busy doing. It really helps to keep our days straight and have more visibility on whats going on!

  4. Figure out what really NEEDS to get done - As I said above to do lists help me to see all the things I think need to be done and prioritize what really needs to be done. For example, sometimes I add to my list like clean the baseboards. No getting food rsvp’s for the wedding needs to be done the baseboard cleaning doesn’t. And while we are at is rsvp’s dont really NEED to be done. But I’d be nice. Paying my bills NEEDS to be done ;)

  5. Schedule time for rest and recharge - If you need to put this on your calendar, do it!! Make sure you are making the most with your time though. I always feel ilke watching tv will be more realizing that it is. Usually I just spend my time thinking of all the things I have to do. So maybe schedule an hour to color, read or take a bubble bath. Something that really helps me disconnect!

  6. Prioritize - I can’t say this enough, not only figure out what needs to be done and what doesn’t. But get the big stuff done first. Sometimes I do a few small things just to get me feeling good and warmed up but then just tackle the big things. They always seem bigger in your head and will take a huge weight off your shoulders.

  7. Meal prep - If you can meal prep so that all your meals are ready for the week. This is a huge time saver when you’re hustling and bustling. If you can’t meal plan try to order some healthy meals. Keep your body fueled in the right way. Eating sporadically or eating junk will not keep you moving. It will slow you down but not in a good way!

  8. Try to make time for walks - For me this helps clears my mind or helps me to think of other things that need to be done that I forgot about. It also helps me put everything into perspective and just take a breath. Sometimes we feel so busy we don’t have time to slow down. But in reality we do and we will feel more refreshed and productive getting back to the list.

  9. Drink a lot of water - If you have to knock out a lot to do at your desk, make sure you fill up a big glass of water before you sit down. Water helps from getting pesky headaches and makes you get up everyone once in a while for the bathroom to take a break! Silly I know but water really does help me to just feel better.

  10. Put your phone down - If you really need to get stuff done, put your phone away. Get rid of all notification on your phone or computer and just get it done!

  11. Pomodoro method - I wrote about this in my productivity post. But I love the pomodoro method for when I really need to get stuff done. 25 minutes of work 5 minutes of break. They say though don’t go on social media or anything in the 5 minutes and I agree if you’re really getting stuff done. I would say don’t even check emails. Its distracting and can get you off tangent. I use the focus keeper app. Seriously if you give this you’re all you’ll be amazed by what you get done!

  12. Buy things you need to - If you need to save time, pay people to help. Your time is a hot commodity, if cleaning the house will take up too much of your time and you don’t have that to give, pay someone. Sometimes saving time and the stress is worth more than just money!

  13. Sleep - Its important to make time for sleep so that you can really tackle the day. Bad sleep and feeling groggy will not help you to push through this stressful time.

  14. Workout - Working out is great, if you have time. If you don’t, its okay! I use to stress so much about not getting all my work outs in. But now I just eat healthy and know Im doing everything I can! Working out is a lifestyle not which means its okay if I miss some, its not going anywhere.

  15. Some Tools - Here are some notebooks I like if I really need to get stuff done. This one and this one for lists. I like this one for agendas. This is for the pomodoro method. Here’s a cute timer if you need it!

  16. MOST IMPORTANTLY - Don’t stress too much, at the end of the day all this stuff will get done will get done. It’s not worth it to drive yourself crazy during these periods. Just take a deep breath and remind yourself you’re doing the best you can!

I hope some of these tips help you! Let me know in the comments if there’s anything you do during a really busy time in your life! I’d love to know!

Lessons from 2018 so far

I meant to write this post a long time ago but like most of this year it has just gotten away from me. Last year I feel like I worked a lot on myself and my anxiety. This year I focused a lot of attention outward and what I was putting out into the world. I could tell that my anxious and fearful self didn’t help me to get where I wanted to go especially with friendships. And this year with wedding planning it shows you a lot. I had a ton of friends I never expected step up to the plate, I learned that my friends show that they care in different ways than I do and really learned the tough lesson that I wasn’t a priority for some people. I am empathetic to a fault and I really try to communicate with friends, and when you don’t receive that back it can be hurtful.

So I stopped putting effort into relationships that no longer served me.

Now, I feel like when people say that it makes it seem like this incredible shift happens immediately and life is unicorns and rainbows. And friends Im here to tell you the truth. At first, its quiet. Like eerily quiet. When you remove all the noise and commotion of people in your life that have a negative affect, it leaves a really empty space.

And I have to be honest, it freaked me out at first. I wasn’t sure what to do I felt like I had all this time on my hands, less people were talking to me and I felt sad. I was morning the lost of friends and had nothing to immediately replace it with. So I took a step back and thought about what I would like to fill my new found free time with. I spent it doing things I enjoyed and thats when everything really started to turn around. I fostered and help grew things in my life that brought me happiness. Sometimes I would just read a book and when it was over I’d be sad because no one texted me. But I realized that few hours of reading the book brought me more happiness, and less frustration than those friends did.

So yes this shift brought good change but it took time and a little more work on my side. But I find now that when toxic friends do dumb things it doesn’t bother me or get me worked but because I don’t care, and two I have better friends now that I don’t need them. I put more time and energy into things and people that made me happy and of course Im overall much happier.

So If you’re looking for a sign, this is it. Don’t waste your precious time and energy on things and people that don’t make you feel good. Do things that are good for you and make you feel good about yourself. I spent so much time trying to get mean people to like me and it was like for what? Why not spend more time with someone you just met and it was easy.

I hope this encourages you too that if you want a change, it my be hard at first, and even weird but it will pay dividend. Just know you’re doing what is best for you and thats what matters! The happier the more you will attract your tribe!

“Your vibe attracts your tribe”

Should I DIY for my Wedding?

I am in the THICK of wedding planning. Holy cow, I knew it would be work but these last 2 months have been crazy. If you’re every attending a wedding for the love, please send it in on time and correctly mark food choices if needed! Thats my advice!

So I have been trying to DIY some wedding items just because Im a perfectionist sometimes, I want to save money, and I like creating, of course. So I’d thought I’d share with you my check list of whether or not I should create something:

  1. First and most important question: Do I have time?? My advice would be for DIYing is creating things that you can make months out that won’t needed to be changed last minute. For example signs, props, card boxes. Things along those lines. I would advise against seating charts or escort cards because those are subject to change a lot last minute. If one person cancels last minute it could change your whole seating chart.

  2. Can a lot go wrong?? Some of the items we wanted to make or course there were hiccups. Things weren’t the size we expected or we needed more paint. Lots of trips to Michaels. If this project can go from 0 to 100 real quick on problems, either plan very in-depth or scrap it all together. There will be other things that are more pressing and have problems that you will have to tend to.

  3. Will this look nice enough?? Sometimes I start a project and then I finish and Im like hmm that didn’t turn out quite as nice as I expected. If this is a main focal point, do you trust yourself enough to do an amazing job? Harsh but you’d rather know the answer before you start rather than after.

  4. Would it be cheaper to pay someone to do this?? Sometimes I see a project and Im like Oh easy! But then I realize all the supplies I had to buy and time it will take and I realize it’s just not worth it. Paying someone else or buying off etsy would be way easier.

  5. Is it worth it?? Is this something you really want to create and on your wedding day say thank you I made that! Or is it something people may not even notice? Sometimes I feel like we take on so much DIYing where it would be less time and energy to just purchase it. Trust me you’re going to be pulled in a lot of directions, don’t add more onto your plate if you’re not really excited about it.

When I started wedding planning I was going to DIY all this stuff. And my mom thought I was crazy. One thing I for sure took off my list was escort cards because it’s last minute and will reflect food choices as well. But I have created some really cool stuff! I’d be happy to make a post on how I did it all after the wedding and I have proper photos! Let me know if you’d like that!

I hope this helps with your decision on should I DIY or not for your wedding! If you’ve already had your wedding I’d love to see what you DIYed!