Real Talk: Comparisons
Hi Friends! I hope that you are enjoying the new blog and the changes! I would love to hear your thoughts. It's been a hot minute since I have had some real talk on the blog and I just thought it was time. I recently have had some solid heart to hearts with my BFF's and I have realized recently how much on a daily basis I have been encountering people comparing. Comparing their life in all aspects, their clothes, their jobs, their health, their relationships, etc. to other people they know.
The problem with comparing is that it automatically makes one thing better, and one thing worse. Not just plain different or equal in their own ways. One is always the better option and someone is worse off.
I can't lie, I compare my life all the time to others. But I finally had the epiphany that by doing this I am truly only hurting myself. It is something that I internalize and I usually don't feel like the "winner" in most cases. I guess I really took a step back and in so many cases I was comparing apples to oranges. People had made different choices than I had but we also didn't do everything the same to lead up to that point. I was judging them and myself.
It is 110% okay to be different. As long as you are doing what is best for you and trying to better yourself. By comparing no one is truly a winner. I know that there are quotes like "you're only in a competition with yourself", and "don't compare your beginning to someone's middle". And as cheesy as it is it is equally true.
I know that this is going to be hard, but I'm writing this as a reminder to my friends and myself to be easy going and stop comparing so much, because really in the end, what are you even competing for? And do you feel all that much better by putting someone down to be a winner in a race your competing in by yourself?
Be easy on yourself my friend, you're exactly where you need to be.